Cancelled

Some lucky women had their babies today so none of my doctors were around to have the cerclage discussion with me. I met with one of the physicians assistants instead and I got to hear the heartbeat. It's amazing how I can lay there and hear a heartbeat but still not feel like there is a baby in there.

The PA mentioned that she talked to one of the dr's last week about me wanting a cerclage and his reaction was "we need to talk her out of that." Great. I explained to her that if everyone is totally against me doing it that's fine, but I want to be checked every week and plan on being on bed rest. She said "it's not proven that bed rest helps anything either." WTF? I snapped and my eyes welled up with tears. I said "so your policy for women with weakened cervix's and half a uterus is just to go about life as normal?" Should I start having rough sex every night, lift heavy furniture, and take up tackle football? This is crazy. She said she would make another appointment for me to see the doctors as soon as possible....which turned out to be three weeks from now. I do have my 12 week nuchal ultrasound in two weeks and if my cervix has shortened anymore at that time then they said I would be seeing a dr then.

I just don't know what to do. I live in a fairly large city and these doctors are supposed to be some of the best around. I was referred to them from my fabulous RE and she was shocked that I even got an appointment. Maybe I'm just overreacting? I feel like an hysterical pregnant woman. I just want answers.

Some of you have asked why they don't want to do cerclage. They say that a cerclage can cause preterm labor, which it can. But, without a cerclage I run the risk of the baby basically falling out in the second trimester before it's viable. Neither option is good.